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Do you need a hero?

Prior to mini9 028 With all the celebrity scandal in the news, it’s tempting to not even turn the channel from Nick Jr. I come from a golfing family, so there has been much discussion of Tiger Woods even before he made the leap from the golf channel to the gossip shows. My mom loves him - she says he is the reason she got back into golf. My grandparents aren’t that fond of him, and the recent turn of events did nothing to warm their hearts. My grandma played in the first NCAA golf championship, representing Miami University. She still plays and recently had a tournament named after her. She has an amazing scrapbook full of newspaper articles, and my mom recently copied the scrapbook to show to the ladies in “The Marty” tournament. A friend asked if she could make an extra copy for her daughter and my mom was happy to comply. Her daughter is in high school and plays on the golf team. She had been a big Tiger fan, and as many teens do, she had covered her room with pictures, articles and posters of her golf idol. After receiving a copy of my grandma’s scrapbook, she replaced the pictures on her wall with a real role model - both on the course and off.

Isn’t it funny how we look to people with no more qualification than athletic ability, an aptitude for acting or a pretty face to inspire us? I’m as guilty as the next person (or nearly so) insofar as I like to read the gossip magazines while I’m working out or waiting for an appointment, and I watch the Kendra show on DVR when I’m up late nursing. But I know that these people aren’t the role models I choose for myself, or the ones I want my daughters to choose. Luckily we have a fantastic role model who lives just down the street, and it means so much to me that my daughters are getting to know their great grandma. And they have so much to learn from her example - kindness, perseverance, patience, and the importance of a good plan. I am still learning myself. One of the most important characteristics of a role model is character, and it’s hard to evaluate the character of a complete stranger. So the next time you are disappointed in your choice of role model (or your child’s) look around and see if there is a good candidate that you know in real life. Or give me a call, I’ll let you talk to my grandma.

This is an original Ohio Moms Blog post.

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