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04/23/2010

Why Men Cheat

J0444298Tiger Woods, Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, Ted Haggard....the list goes on and on as to the men we hear about, daily it seems, that are caught cheating on their wives and family.  I could just about regurgitate every time I hear another recount of a powerful and/or famous male and the problems that his treacherous sexual behavior has brought upon him and his innocent family.

Further, to add insult to injury, the press continues to make excuses for this lack of self-control as they suggest that perhaps these cheaters have some sort of a sexual addiction and need rehab along with therapy.

"I ain't no psychiatrist, I ain't no doctor with degree" as Aretha Franklin sang in her hit "Think", but let me tell you this.  There is a very simple, yet profound reason these men cheat and I won't even charge you $250 an hour to reveal it to you.

Power, power, power.  That is the reason these wealthy, prestigious and powerful men of position cheat.  Let me unpack this a bit.

Years ago, I heard an interview with Chuck Colson, Special Counsel to then President Nixon, as he reflected on his prison term for his involvement in the Watergate scandal.  When asked why he thought he could get away with his actions, this now very wise man spoke of the intoxicating control of power.

Power and position can lead the most faithful of husbands astray.  It leads them and their ego to believe that they are above the rules and can get away with most anything.  They have come to believe that they are 'bigger than life' and have frankly lost touch with reality.  This repudiation of the truth causes them to take absurd risks that would surely reveal their transgressions, and many times does.

These men surround themselves with an entourage of co-dependent and/or well-paid supporters who protect and lie for these celebrities.  Many times, as in the case with John Edwards, these advocates are even willing to 'take the fall' out of loyalty .  Give me a break, will you?

Mark my words, once these losers are caught in their immorality, they offer up 'apologize to their public.  The sincerity that surrounds what is many times positioned as a press conference stinks to high heaven, similar to an open latrine in a third world country.  I feel the nausea come over me once I see their "regretful yet not repentant" little "please don't take my high-dollar endorsements from me" faces.

Sooner than later, they plan their 'comebacks', like anyone really cares.  The media is sure to highly publicize this information because it is all, in fact, about money and power.

To conclude, James F. Byrnes, who was a very powerful man in Washington DC at one time, said it best with the following quotes.  This man understood power and its influence.  He was a member of the House of Representatives, a Senator, Secretary of State, Governor of South Carolina and an Associate Justice of the US Supreme Court.  He said the following:

"Power intoxicates men.  When a man is intoxicated by alcohol, he can recover, but when intoxicated by power, he seldom recovers".

"Power intoxicates men.  It is never voluntarily surrendered.  It must be taken from them".

Amen.  I couldn't agree more.  Now who's got the guts to take the power from them?

Original post to Ohio Moms Blog.

Kelly Morris also writes about family life at www.themorristribe.net 

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