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November 14, 2007

Yes, We're Ferberizing, You Can Throw Stones Now

Kavi sleeping

Kavya has defeated us. At five and a half months, after a whole lot of attachment parenting and co-sleeping, she's still waking up every 2-3 hrs at night. We are too old and tired to keep up, and so we've decided to try letting her Cry It Out (or, as some would call it, 'torture our helpless baby').  If she doesn't sleep through the night soon, bad things will happen in our house.

I should perhaps define our terms.  Some people apparently view 'sleeping through the night' as putting their child to bed at nine p.m. and being woken up by a happy smiling baby at seven a.m., after a solid, restful ten hours of sleep.  We laugh hollowly at such people.  This is Kavi's general sleep pattern at night:

  • 7 p.m. -- fall asleep for an hour or so
  • 8 p.m. -- wake up and play for a while
  • 10 p.m. -- fall asleep for 2-3 hrs
  • 1ish a.m. -- wake up and demand food, then fifteen minutes of eating later, go back to sleep (note:  this feeding takes just long enough that we wake up too much, and have trouble getting back to sleep -- bonus!)
  • 4 a.m. -- wake up and play for an hour or so
  • 5 a.m. -- fall asleep for another two hours
  • 7 a.m. -- actually get up for the day

As you can see, it's the 1 a.m feeding that's really killing us.  For the last six months, we've slept in 2-3 hr increments all night, and it is very not good.  So four nights ago, we finally decided to try letting her cry it out.  Kevin took the first shift, Friday night, while I slept in another room far, far away.  I actually didn't sleep great, because I kept waking up, worried about how it was going.  Sigh.  But it was worse for him.  Apparently, there was quite a bit of crying, howling, shrieking, etc.  Only about an hour's worth total, but spaced into into two big chunks and a bunch of smaller times.  The worst part was when her howls of rage turned into howls of heartbreak, asking daddy, "Why have you abandoned me???"  Poor Kevin looked fairly ravaged when he handed her off to me Saturday morning and went off to get some sleep of his own.

Saturday night was actually much better.  I had her then, and she did wake up three times to cry, but two of those were just for two minutes (literally, I timed it), and she just went back to sleep, and the third time was for eight minutes (which felt a lot longer).  Throughout, she stayed in rage-mode, which is much easier for a parent to take than the broken-hearted wails.

I don't remember the details of Sunday night, but it was about the same, I think, and last night, Kavi only woke up once (!) in the six hour stretch from 10 p.m. - 4 a.m., and when food was not immediately forthcoming, she was back asleep within a minute or two.  I am quite hopeful that within a few nights we may actually get Miss Kavya to sleep six straight hours in a row.  At which point, Kevin and I will finally go back to being the nice people that we really are, rather than the grumbly, growly red-eyed monsters that we have gradually become over the last six months.

Fingers crossed.

Cross-posted to An Ongoing, Erratic Diary


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