I was watching the Today show
this morning and saw a piece called Do You Have Mommy Envy? Of course
we all have it a little - that mom you see with a newborn and she's
already back in her pre-pregnancy jeans. I am still not back in my pre-pregnancy
jeans (from any of my pregnancies!) and I might not ever be that tiny
again. That is something I'm totally fine with now. Doesn't mean I
don't still have a little envy about it, though. And you see the Mom
that "has it all and does it all and knows it all"... well, you know as
well as I do that at the end of the day, we're all wiping counters,
noses, and butts just like the next Mom.
If you have mistaken me for one of those Moms that "has it all and does it all and knows it all", you should stop by my house unannounced on any given day and your image of me will be something completely different, I am sure. I am just speaking figuratively here, please don't stop by my house unannounced. It's a mess!
I think that our own insecurities can highlight other Moms' so-called "perfect qualities" when really those same Moms are feeling just as insecure or incapable. If I see something I like in another mom, like the way she talks gently to her children or remembers to actually bring snacks to the park, I don't let it make me feel "less-than." Instead I allow my heart to apply the good things I see in other Moms to my own life. We make the choice to feel Mommy envy. And we also have a choice to make a change in our own lives, and also to be content just the way we are.
Cross-posted from Adventures In Babywearing.